tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post9152669386442625031..comments2023-08-20T02:40:09.712-07:00Comments on The Legend of Zephyr: Detachment ParentingHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07630354073303047529noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-87516893449817740732019-04-21T04:10:52.779-07:002019-04-21T04:10:52.779-07:00Wow i can say that this is another great article a...Wow i can say that this is another great article as expected of this blog.Bookmarked this site.. <a href="https://richmomlife.com/" rel="nofollow">mommy blog</a><br />Jack Johnnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933608625883364901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-91735508032939478142010-12-22T16:21:37.787-08:002010-12-22T16:21:37.787-08:00I love this post. Love, boundries and good nutriti...I love this post. Love, boundries and good nutrition, there you go!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04494869781168359179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-88810806958285890132010-11-14T20:39:15.122-08:002010-11-14T20:39:15.122-08:00I commented on this ages ago. Darned Blogger! It ...I commented on this ages ago. Darned Blogger! It eated my comment.Tannohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01676012570589401174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-91457692980162353482010-11-13T15:19:11.671-08:002010-11-13T15:19:11.671-08:00Hah! I look forward to you guys joining Co-op whe...Hah! I look forward to you guys joining Co-op when Zeph turns 18 mos... ;)mama_natahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10096364469242732595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-61314164324505408862010-11-11T08:46:47.485-08:002010-11-11T08:46:47.485-08:00Wow, this is a great post! It doesn't matter h...Wow, this is a great post! It doesn't matter how you raise your baby because you only have to answer to yourself and your hubby. I don't care if my son is a clingy Mama's boy when he gets older. That's the good part about being a mother. =)Curls of Innocencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03976766259530857420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-85193582855243732582010-11-10T22:45:10.016-08:002010-11-10T22:45:10.016-08:00I absolutely loved this post! Thanks for being ho...I absolutely loved this post! Thanks for being honest :) I love the idea behind AP and did the same things as you with both my kids. Funny thing is, my little boy (kid #2) was an ornery little guy and refused to be held, rocked, cuddled to sleep. So much for AP. It just wasn't working for him. As much as I would have loved to co-sleep with him for a long time it was just not going to work. Same parents, same treatment, but totally different kid. <br /><br />I think you're doing a great job. I'm kinda curious about who and what inspired your post because apparently I'm out of the loop with the AP crowd.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17828799661210751800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-79436830505523227592010-11-10T18:19:50.171-08:002010-11-10T18:19:50.171-08:00Nice post!
I do identify myself to AP, but I don&#...Nice post!<br />I do identify myself to AP, but I don't feel I have to take the whole package, I take what I like and forget the rest, fortunately I have a brain, and like to use it. And I just hate being told what I have to do, whoever it comes from.<br />So of course sometimes I do feel I don't fit in some AP discussions, but I don't really care. Some people (AP or not) judge me for my choices concerning the education I choose to give my daughter, so what? <br />I'm her parent, they're not, so their opinion isn't really important to me as long as I believe I'm doing well enough (and anyway, I have to admit I do judge them too, I just don't tell them they're totally wrong, but it doesn't prevent me from thinking so). <br />But sometimes I feel I'm not behaving like I should, at least not like I would like to, because there's something deep down inside of me that I don't really understand, an anger that's too strong for me to keep under control. <br />And then I'm glad to find people who basically share most if not all of my opinions concerning education, people who can help me analyse (and not analyse for me) what's going on inside of me and look at the situation with a new eye, people who won't tell me that my daughter just deserves a good spanking, which won't kill her anyway...<br />So ok, I don't always agree with them, when that's the case I say so and try to explain why (you never know, it might help someone think about it and decide to use their brain), not to convince them at all costs, which would be vain anyway) but just to state that their way is not the only way. <br />But if their way works for them, well, good for them, we'll see when our kids grow up if theirs are so much better balanced and happier than mine (I sure hope not, but who knows!)<br />And in the meantime, I'll just keep on doing my best to behave according to my convictions (and who cares if that's not what Mrs X or Mr Y wrote in their book).Eloïnehttp://www.poupees-alafolie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-18110683050896652552010-11-10T16:05:44.592-08:002010-11-10T16:05:44.592-08:00There are so many people in the world who have an ...There are so many people in the world who have an opinion on how you should raise your children. None of those really matter except yours. <br /><br />Like you, I never would have called myself an AP parent, but I did a lot of the things, like breastfeeding and wearing him all over the place. We basically kicked him out of our bed before 6 months, although since about the age of 3 he's been sneaking back in every night. He's now 7 and we wonder if he'll ever sleep a full night in his own bed.<br /><br />At the other extreme from AP, I had my son in daycare from the age of 4 months. My husband worked full time and I was a slave to my thesis adviser. You'd be surprised how many times I was told (indirectly or in some passive-agressive way) that I was damaging my son because I chose to work outside the home. Usually it would be comments like <i>I decided to leave my high paying job because I knew that being a SAHM is best for little Johnny</i>. And now he's in public school and I wouldn't have it any other way. He'll surely need therapy when he gets older!<br /><br />On a side note, I made baby food as well, but the kid still had eating issues, more about textures than taste. There was about a 2 to 3 year period where dinnertime was often a struggle. But he got over it, and now he's a great eater. Thank god! So if it should happen to you, it will pass.dphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09255384036992381006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-76732791130709679482010-11-10T15:57:39.140-08:002010-11-10T15:57:39.140-08:00Thanks, Shetha. :)Thanks, Shetha. :)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07630354073303047529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-20341272949782505862010-11-10T14:48:41.925-08:002010-11-10T14:48:41.925-08:00Ahhhh labels -- how (in)convenient they are. Lovi...Ahhhh labels -- how (in)convenient they are. Loving this post. It feels very affirming on so many levels ;-)Shethahttp://www.twitter.com/shethanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-19902474447764651252010-11-10T09:57:17.145-08:002010-11-10T09:57:17.145-08:00I think you may have slightly missed my punchline,...I think you may have slightly missed my punchline, Rebecca. I was trying to be tongue-in-cheek about the fact that I actually do engage in many of the AP parenting techniques, while making a commentary on how far the lifestyle (in general) has gone in a direction that has absolutely nothing to do with being connected to our children (or ecologically-conscious). <br /><br />I see a lot of parents identify themselves as AP, but in actuality it is frequently only one facet of an extremely fringe lifestyle that has little to do with the practices of AP parenting. It has felt, to me, like an all-or-nothing, Jonestownian, "subscribe to our newsletter" lifestyle choice that is really unappealing (yes, this is largely because of its lack of basis on the scientific evidence that I find valuable).<br /><br />fwiw, I thought it was Ferber that originally recommended CIO. I never read Spock's book, but <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Benjamin_Spock" rel="nofollow">the wiki entry on him</a> reads like he was the first pediatrician of his generation to recommend mothers to use common sense and trust their instincts (which is why he got so much backlash in his time). He was also apparently an anti-Vietnam war activist, and in fact his critics suggested that his parenting recommendations propagated the young people that created the anti-war movement.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07630354073303047529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-32783351235407177102010-11-09T22:06:19.761-08:002010-11-09T22:06:19.761-08:00AP isn't about any of that stuff (restrictive ...AP isn't about any of that stuff (restrictive diets, amber necklaces, home or unschooling or not vaccinating)... it's about connection and the "baby Bs" (breastfeeding, babywearing, bedding with baby, bonding and i forget the rest, but it sounds like you do those things) are just tools that help you connect. it is thru that connection that you, the parent, becomes the expert on your child and can make decisions that are in your child's best interests. it's all about the connection. a connected parent doesn't "train" the baby to sleep alone thru CIO methods (like dr. spock advised), a connected parent responds to the baby. all this builds a solid foundation of trust and sets the parent up as the person the child can go to when something is wrong because the child knows/trusts his/her needs will be met. a child getting their needs met isn't the same as them getting their WANTS met. it's not giving the kid run of the house or giving in to tantrums or not setting boundaries. of course our job as parents is to keep our children safe and have rules and boundaries that help them stay safe. i think you will do just fine at attachment parenting. so there! ;)rebeccahttp://knowthyfood.com/noreply@blogger.com