tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post4264332729388478312..comments2023-08-20T02:40:09.712-07:00Comments on The Legend of Zephyr: Mommy DearestHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07630354073303047529noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-3455773324163323852010-04-29T05:10:29.983-07:002010-04-29T05:10:29.983-07:00I hope things correct. Sleep deprivation is a kill...I hope things correct. Sleep deprivation is a killer. <br /><br />My daughter was a really good sleeper at first. Then at about a year she became an insomniac and 16 years later she's still and insomniac. <br /><br />Actually, that's not true. We finally figured out that she runs on a 25 hour clock (or maybe it's 23 hours) and being an hour off she gets wildly out of sync with normal schedules. It's really messed things up for her... for example, keeping a normal K-12 school schedule.Trophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12337170502777101326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-17366476689067830592010-04-28T22:48:33.086-07:002010-04-28T22:48:33.086-07:00I have to say that everything but everything is do...I have to say that everything but everything is doable with some sleep. The first 5 months of my daughter's life were a hell that I would never care to repeat, but after a couple weeks of solid bedtime behavior and long naps I feel absolutely philosophical about what a short time it was in the span of my baby's life and blah blah blah. The truth is This Too Shall Pass but it sure as heck doesn't feel like it when you are in the middle of the shiznit.Tannohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01676012570589401174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-73680168838967108622010-04-28T12:27:32.497-07:002010-04-28T12:27:32.497-07:00Hi there! I too hated the months of sleep deprivat...Hi there! I too hated the months of sleep deprivation and struggled with ugly feelings at times. But after that phase was over and I was getting sleep again, I felt like I wore 'motherhood' with much more strength and confidence. There's something about sleep deprivation that erodes your coping skills, sense of humor, and general optimism. They do call it 'bootcamp', after all. It will get much better.<br />MaureenaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-69828956160433692812010-04-28T11:24:16.442-07:002010-04-28T11:24:16.442-07:00Thanks, guys. I think that once I can learn to let...Thanks, guys. I think that once I can learn to let go of expectations (of myself and of Zephyr) that everything will be just fine.<br /><br />Kristie - I plan on nursing for at least a year, but will probably go longer for the health benefits. Many moms elect to nurse their toddlers once a day for that reason. And wait until your third trimester when you have to get up to pee five times a night before you assess your ability to cope with interruptions to your sleep!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07630354073303047529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-84700903855295878562010-04-27T23:21:46.390-07:002010-04-27T23:21:46.390-07:00Oh, sweetie. I am so there with you. It's ha...Oh, sweetie. I am so there with you. It's hard to appreciate even the world's most wonderful baby when you are so sleep deprived. I really miss 6+ hour stretches of sleep. In trying to put the baby down to sleep today, I accidentally fell asleep for over 2 hours in the afternoon.<br /><br />I almost cried reading this. Every kid who's parents crossed the line fears doing the same thing with their own kid. And of course we are going to lose our cool on so little sleep. I've whined and swore a lot recently. But one of my psych profs in grad school told me that as long as you are a good parent 80% of the time, your kid will turn out ok. The way I see it, that means that if we swear at them every fifth time we want to, we're doing ok. <br /><br />I think your sense of humor will be your release valve. Joking about wire hangers makes you much less likely to actually use one.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03825516842220280065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-51580701650042779142010-04-27T16:18:29.750-07:002010-04-27T16:18:29.750-07:00How much longer will you be breastfeeding, do you ...How much longer will you be breastfeeding, do you know? It only takes a couple days of honest sleep deprivation to make me willing to punch strangers in the solar plexus. I shudder, for reals, to think of myself under those conditions. My husband will be covered in bruises and telling helpful neighbors that he ran into doorknobs or something. I've seen it on SVU.The Spiteful Chefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06309097272920178065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2855326786886235208.post-86244841952167712712010-04-27T15:09:10.043-07:002010-04-27T15:09:10.043-07:00Aw. All you can do is take deep breaths and give ...Aw. All you can do is take deep breaths and give yourself do-overs. I lose my shit all the time - sometimes in private, other times (regrettably) in front of the kids. On challenging days or in challenging situations, it's very okay to just settle Zeph in his crib with some soft books and step out on the back deck for a little fresh air and quiet. Sometimes all it takes is a minute. Other times, a little weeding, mail-getting, surveying of the property... There's something important about experiencing the full range of emotions within a family - individually, and together. It's okay if you cry. It's okay if he cries. So long as at the end of the day, everyone's still as madly in love as you guys are. xoxox Nmama_natahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10096364469242732595noreply@blogger.com